Don’t Be Detoured by Manipulative People

Dr. George Simon, the author of In Sheep’s Clothing- Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People, notes the importance of identifying the traits of manipulative people and how to be best cope with them because trying to change them is a “a good formula for depression.”

  • Ask a direct question, you’ll rarely get a direct answer
  • Good at putting you on the defensive
  • In the past, people were overly inhibited; today the opposite is true
  • Children and adults alike tend to fight for three things, survival and prospering, social position and the things that they want…this is natural…it’s how they go about that is what character is all about
  • Manipulators are calculating…to get around your resistance…
  • Manipulators are phony…they want to get the better of you, but they just don’t want to be seen as such